Coupling: Monkeying Around with Our Biological Urges

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Humans, the quirky creatures that we are, have an insatiable itch for coupling that rivals our hunger for pizza on a Friday night. Like our cravings for cheesy goodness, this biological need is deeply rooted in our DNA, reminding us that we're not just primates in suits, but also love-struck beings on the eternal quest for the perfect partner.

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In the wacky world of coupling, let's take a moment to imagine equations. Yes, you read that right—equations! Consider them as the cosmic dance of male and female, each side with its own unique needs, swirling together to form the ever-elusive couple.

Men + Women = Result

What result? Ah, reproduction, the holy grail of our existence! Our brains are wired to go into full-on panic mode at the mere thought of our genes missing out on the grand evolutionary dance party. It's like our DNA has set up a hotline to our subconscious, screaming, "Quick! Find a mate before the genetic bouncer kicks you out!" So, dear readers, welcome to the spectacular circus of coupling, where our monkey minds do the cha-cha-cha to guarantee the survival of our wacky gene pool.

The same needs

Both men and women share the need for sex and offspring. T

here are some other common denominators of human desire. Let's list them:

Companionship Cravings: Just like a monkey swinging through the trees, humans have an inherent need for companionship. We're social creatures who thrive on emotional connections and the warmth of a partner's presence.

Affectionate Touch: Ah, the power of touch! Humans have a remarkable sensitivity to physical contact, and couples get to indulge in a whole lot of it. From cozy cuddles on the couch to hand-holding during a romantic stroll, our bodies crave those gentle, affectionate moments. It's like a massage for the soul, creating a sense of comfort, security, and oxytocin-induced bliss.

Emotional Support: Life can be a rollercoaster of emotions, and having a partner by your side makes the ride a little less terrifying. Couples provide each other with emotional support, acting as cheerleaders, therapists, and sounding boards all rolled into one.

Intimacy and Trust: Beyond physical intimacy, couples also share a need for emotional intimacy and trust.

Biological cost

Evolution was not counting on the digital revolution and modernisation. That is how evolution works. Things happen and if they are a bad idea, they will die out. Digitalisation is not dying out. This means that the supply of affection, intimacy and trust is on sale for cheap the world of instant gratification (think Tinder).

Evolution has made these more expensive. For both parties to get their emotional needs satisfied they need to spend lot of time and energy together and compromise a lot ore than we have it in our guts to do these days.

Evolution is a bit expensive. Some men are quite cheap with their energy and commitment.

Men, with their newfound financial prowess and social standing are like eager shoppers, filling their baskets with instant moments of connection. Why on earth would they invest all the efforts if everything is on offer in the cheap drive-through of emotional needs?

Some women working in these emotional drive-throughs are hoping that these spontaneous encounters will eventually lead to the ultimate reward—a coupledom jackpot.

It's a quirky dance where both parties enter with different motivations, playing a delicate balancing act of give-and-take, akin to a high-stakes negotiation or a romantic version of "Let's Make a Deal." But what inevitably happens is that the car drives off and the seeks a new and better fast food joint.

But hold on a second, in our evolved society, women no longer require men to physically provide for them and their little ones. And that's where things get interesting, my friends.

To understand why women still run for that coupledom read the blogpost from yesterday.

Why are more women single

Men got lucky

Men, let me tell you, you've lucked out in this modern context. Ok, yeah, there are some inconvenient speed bumps on the road: scientific breakthroughs in paternity testing, the evidence of genetic parenthood and the obligation to financially support your offspring... but these are tiny issues to blissful independence.

If you choose, you can end up remotely raising your offspring, like a tech-savvy dad on a Zoom call, with minimal physical exertion. It's like outsourcing parenting to the cloud!

And you still fulfil that major evolutionary need to procreation! You can also take your sweet time in growing old and realising that the kid you didn't actully want at the beginning is a great addition to your life.

Women got the short end

On the other hand, women are going all-in with their assets in a desperate bid to secure that elusive couple status. They're like high-stakes poker players, going all-in on love, hoping to hit the relationship jackpot. Historically, women were in a weaker position due to physical limitations and the burdens of pregnancy.

Now, let's be clear here—men aren't to blame for this quirky turn of events. It's just one of those evolutionary outcomes, like discovering we function in pairs with unequal physical responsibilities. Evolution happens!

Our modern social construct can't quite compensate for this difference yet. And let's not forget, women are still grappling with emotional struggles when their coupling focus remains unachieved. And they keep having to bear the offspring, which puts them in a vulnerable position while her partner can hop on to another drive-through.

Stop blaming men

We can't expect men to have masterminded this grand scheme of female evolution. So, folks, let's put away the blame game, shall we?

Instead, let's focus on accepting the reality that women have two options.

Either they make their physical assets more challenging for men to obtain, turning it into an Olympic-level obstacle course - and stick to the rules! Like for example, when historically there was no "naught-naughty" before a man committed fully to the coupledom.

Or they embrace the freedom of single-hood with understanding that they have played a part in what the current situation is on the playground of relationships is.

Ladies, the choice is yours—go ahead and rewrite the rules or keep evolving and embracing the new rules of engagement.